It's a chilly Tuesday morning. I remembered to take the trash out, I'm currently watching Sarah Sees Potential (which I really enjoy, despite Sarah's annoying voice), I've polished my nails, done a few chores around the house, I'm heading over to Pinterest in a few, and contemplating a nap before tonight's shift. I am determined to have a peaceful, yet productive day.
Today over at Coffee Chat, Leslie asks "Would you feel ill at ease going to a movie alone? Or to eat at a restaurant? A concert?" This is something that I feel qualified to write about, because I have tons of experience with this. My short answer? No. I have actually done all three. And other than being nervous beforehand about going to the concert alone (the other two situations not so much), all turned out really well. In fact, at the show I attended by myself? I met the musician I showed up to see:
See? Not so bad. Sure, I am by nature a little awkward and nervous about going places by myself, but over the years I've learned to push that back. If I had let my insecurities about going somewhere or being alone somewhere keep me from going, I would never have that experience to remember fondly. I would only have the what-if. And life, folks, is simply too short for what-ifs.
Value your own company. Learn to enjoy things on your own, and to have adventures on your own. These days I don't think there's anyplace I wouldn't go alone if I really wanted to.
What about you? Would you feel ill at ease going to the movies/concerts/restaurants/other social outings?
Today's music: Hank III - "Country Heroes"
Love Hank Williams - "Your cheating heart" by his father is one of my favorites.
ReplyDeleteI like all three generations myself :)
DeleteI do a lot by myself so am very comfortable.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear that! We ought to all be comfortable to at least do some things by ourselves sometimes.
DeleteI agree 100 % about going places by yourself. But I think this may be something that a lot of us have to develop to be comfortable with or at least do. Most of these things I still prefer to do in company, but sometimes it is o.k. or possibly better being by yourself.
ReplyDeleteOh, absolutely. I definitely had to develop that in myself. I actually prefer to do a lot with company whenever possible. But if my friends or family can't or don't want to go somewhere, that isn't going to stop me from going :)
DeleteI love that you used the word "adventure" because I feel that's how life should be viewed. that you just need to step outside your front door sometimes, and discover what can be. Some days you will travel alone, others you will have company: but it's all a grand adventure.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why we worry that people will just assume we don't have any friends if we are seen out alone? And what does it matter? I bet most people are mostly focused on their own insecurities to even notice.
Exactly. Some days you'll be alone, and other days you'll have company. A lot of things are even sometimes more enjoyable with company. But I won't let not having company stop me from doing something I want to do. And you are right; many people are probably way too focused on their own insecurities to notice whether or not anyone else is someplace alone.
DeleteKim - I agree with you. If I had to wait on someone to tag along or hang out... I'd be sitting in a corner for hours. I do practically everything alone... and it's been that way since I was a kid. I'd climb a tree and watch the world spin.
ReplyDeleteI hate to admit it but I never knew there was a Hank lll and I really like his song. That means I'll be doing a Hank lll run later. Kim, you are a very attractive woman... and lucky you, hanging out with a song man! Not to be confused with "groupie style," and now I'm heading on. Great post!!
Aw, thank you for your sweet compliment!
DeleteI think people who can not do fun things and/or social things on their own are totally missing out. It's a completely different experience, and it doesn't have to be awkward or bad.
That's what I need to do - figure out how to squelch the awkward and nervous mode about doing some things by myself. Though I do relish (and cherish) my alone times (especially when there's peace and quiet and no interruptions when the kids are at school and the hubby at work - bliss!!) going to a movie or concert or restaurant solo hasn't been in my comfort zone. But look at you! You ROCK! :)
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Yeah, a lot of us really enjoy alone time during down time, but it takes some getting used to to head out solo to things that are normally considered more social activities. But I'm glad I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. Some of my life's most memorable moments have happened when unplanned and/or by myself :)
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