Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Weekend musings, #MusicMonday and #TuesdayCoffeeChat on Wednesday

I went to visit my family this past weekend. This was a planned visit, so I had hoped I would leave the blog a bit better prepared than I did, but due to an exhausting work schedule and an incredible amount of things to tend to before leaving, that obviously never happened. I am still playing catch-up. I've also fallen into the deep end of Pinterest again, but FINALLY I am pinning with a purpose because those big changes I've been talking about for years (the past two years, in fact)? Those changes are set to begin at last.

So, a bit of back story may be in order. I got divorced in July of 2013, but as part of our divorce settlement, I was allowed to live in the marital home for two years from the divorce date since my son was in college. My ex and I agreed to reconvene in July of 2015 to settle the house. At that point, the options were for one of us to refinance it and buy the other out, or to sell and split the profits. Well...it is now February of 2015, and after pretty much thinking every possible angle over, going through scenario after scenario after possibility after possibility in my mind, I have decided that it is in my best interests to sell the house. And while it would be amazing and exciting to start over somewhere in a brand new city, it is also in my best interests at this time to head back to my home state of Mississippi to try to get back on my feet.

This is where this week's coffee chat comes in: "I think; therefore I have a headache. Suffer from over-thinking? Guilty of the thinking much? Or, just...meh."

Obviously, I am guilty of thinking way too much. I think all day, every day. About this. About that. About anything and everything and nothing. At least, during the times I wasn't obsessing over which decision to make regarding the house, which I would say was on my mind probably ninety percent of my waking hours. I do not like uncertainty. I do not like being caught off guard. I do not generally make decisions lightly, and the house - that was a HUGE one. And now that I've made the decision to sell and move? I have to start obsessing over other things, like getting this house ready for sale and finding a job over there (should a transfer not happen). And I am pinning like crazy because: a) I am collecting sprucing-up and staging ideas for this place; and b) I am pinning for my new home. But that is another post for another day. I am way excited about the prospect of a new place that belongs only to me. No one to tell me how to decorate. A place that I can start over, fill with my energy, and make truly mine. Plus, it is going to push the blog further into the directions I want to take it. I know, I could do that now - and probably will - but for the past year, year and a half, I've really been too paralyzed by worry and what-ifs to dive too far into any of my passions.

Oh, if any of you have sold your home while living there WITH PETS, please hit me up. These are tricky, murky waters, and I will most certainly seek out your advice!

For now? #MusicMonday. The theme for this week's Monday's Music Moves Me at Dolly's is freebie, so here it is! Vintage Lenny - sigh. He was, and still is, SO dreamy.

Lenny Kravitz - "It Ain't Over Til It's Over"

Have a great week!


  1. You have had a lot on your mind, and I think any worrying was probably completely valid: because that is a HUGE decision. I would have been boring my poor readers to death because the only way I could have probably dealt with it was to Write, Write, Write. and then more. LOL
    I hope everything goes smoothly for you on this new adventure -- sometimes starting over can be a good thing. I know it was for my mom.
    Lenny -- seriously, he was the best part of the SuperBowl half time show; except Not Enough of him!! :)

    1. Yes, it was an incredibly huge decision, and not one to make lightly. I've made my decision and I am planning that way, but I guess we will still have to see how everything pans out.

      Lenny WAS the best part of the Super Bowl. All twenty seconds of him!

  2. Can't go wrong with Lenny. American woman is a favorite, always.

    Kim, I just went through a similar thing. Kept the house because it was THE deal... best option for me. We all need to make the best deal that helps us live peacefully. You're on the way! I'm glad things are turning around. cannot wait to see what ideas you share. (smile)

    1. Absolutely. Now that I've made a decision, I hope it will end up being a good thing. I have misgivings about going back, but I'd have misgivings about staying, too.

      I'm definitely excited about sharing!

  3. That is definitely a big decision! It's hard, but I wish you good success in starting again with a home.

    Sorry I'm late.
    Thanks for sharing and hanging with us!
    Aloha :)

    1. No worries, late is just as welcome here as an immediate visit :) I am excited at the prospect of starting over, which is something I haven't really felt like I could do here even though I have been divorced for well over a year. But hey...we all go at our own pace, right?

  4. Starting anew is always an exciting/scary proposition. Hope things turn out to your best advantage. If you can figure a way to stop overthinking things let me know. My mind is always running in circles.

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

    1. VERY scary. At least it'll be back home, and not in a completely new place where I don't know anyone, but that sounds pretty good, too! I doubt I will ever figure out how to stop overthinking things. Meditation helps - my form of meditation, anyhow....but my mind also just runs in circles constantly. It's probably why I'm such a horrible insomniac!

      Thanks for stopping by!

  5. That IS a lot to think about, Kim. I think you had every right to think, worry and think again about these heavy decisions. I am glad to hear that you are at the point where you can now be looking forward to 'your new life'. Enjoy!!

    p.s. THAT Lenny Kravitz song - LOVE!

    1. Thank you! I am very excited at the prospect of a new life. If all goes as planned, I'll be returning to my childhood home area, so I am dreading that a bit, but thankful for the opportunity to be near family and start over.


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